I am woman, hear me roar

May 23, 2012

Lock up the lazy bloggers?

Filed under: Disabilities,Rants — Nabiha Meher @ 7:53 pm
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A few months ago, our social conscience, the greatest most ethical journalists in the world, Cafe Pyala, blatantly lied about me and even after being informed they were incorrect, they didn’t correct their error. I didn’t want it removed at all because I want the world to see just how easily people lie about bipolar people (by assuming the worst in us) simply because we are bipolar. I want this to remain up there forever so that I can convince any manic bipolar person not to come out to the public. Many think writing an article like I did will be a wonderful idea. It’s not. Truth be told, I regret coming out because society isn’t ready. And even those who claim they are sensitive to my disability really aren’t and end up assuming all sorts of things about me based on stereotypes. For example, if I rant or make an angry statement, people end up assuming I’m manic or having some severe rage. I can no longer just be annoyed or amused. Everyone will assume an extreme.

But back to Pyala who can’t even spell my name correctly (it’s Shaikh with an A). Seems rather lazy not to check how I spell it but anyway… Pyala claims I invaded a journalist’s privacy when I did no such thing. The journalist in question had all these details up on line. But in order to mock a bipolar woman, I guess it’s ok to define reading something that’s publicly available to all as “invasion of privacy”. Secondly, no summer plans could possibly get ruined because the profile is very old. Unless Pyala thinks I have a time machine, I cannot possibly ruin someone’s plans that have already occurred.

But that’s not my point. My main point here is that any of us can selectively use tweets to defame anyone. And here are some of Pyala’s tweets to analyze:

Cretin, a word so loaded, so abusive is easily used by Pyala. It mocks the weak, the infirm.

Apparently the very intellectual team is unaware that words like lunatic aren’t ok to use. They are actually unaware that words like lunatic are extremely demeaning to those of us with mental health issues. Yeah, I buy that.

Pyala’s tweets aren’t free of misogyny either.

Ah yes, if a woman’s a presenter, then her appearance is fair game. And if her haircut is bad, it’s because her husband cut it at home because men can’t cut hair and women MUST look good.

I have many more but I’m saving them for a workshop. Moving on to ad hominems:

Maybe because they’re in good company?

And here’s Mr XYZ making a personal attack on another author on facebook. Don’t worry, I’ve protected his identity. I know who the team members are and unlike most Pakistanis, the last thing I want is to get back at them by telling the world who they are (most people already know anyway). Logical deconstruction and the fallacies they constantly provide me are the best revenge.

The Pyala team, just like the rest of us, loves to preach but not act. I’m getting tired of being someone who is always ready to point out flaws but never reflect. I’m tired of Pakistanis being so unhappy in life that the only satisfaction we get is by being nasty and then basking in our own intellectual glory. I want no part of it. And I do, indeed, deeply fear the massive backlash I will face because of this.

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5 Comments »

  1. I don’t really know about what exactly happened between you and Cafe Pyala, but I have to say you are awesome. Sick and tired of everyone sitting in judgement of each other as well, on twitter and everywhere else.

    Comment by hira — May 24, 2012 @ 9:55 am | Reply

    • Thanks! I visit twitter almost daily but don’t tweet. A lot of insights developed by being just an observer.

      Plus, like I said, I no longer want to be part of the problem nor am I so insecure that I need legions of admirer to reaffirm my existence on twitter. Most people are just unleashing bitterness & what bugs me the most is the hypocrisy. There are some who are simply allowed to say as they please because of their existence, but radical feminists must be silenced.

      Comment by Nabiha Meher — May 24, 2012 @ 12:37 pm | Reply

  2. “And even those who claim they are sensitive to my disability really aren’t and end up assuming all sorts of things about me based on stereotypes. For example, if I rant or make an angry statement, people end up assuming I’m manic or having some severe rage. I can no longer just be annoyed or amused. Everyone will assume an extreme.”

    This is like hitting the nail on the head. Whatever I say can be dismissed because, oh I’m a ‘psychotic bitch’ who has a grudge against someone and is taking it out on other people. So if I say someone was an asshole and used me, I must be lying.

    Comment by azrizvi — June 7, 2012 @ 3:46 am | Reply

  3. Hi Nabiha,

    I am a new reader of your blog and stumbled upon it quite honestly by sheer luck. I remember reading your piece on Dawn but until your mention of it, did not put two and two together. I think you are a very gifted writer and I can feel your passion and belief through it. I know this comment is not necessarily about the post but I just wanted to say congratulations on a very informed blog. I really like your talk about critical thinking and also agree with you on the fact that it is critically absent from our education system. That I am a product of the said system and in all honesty did not “resort” to critical thinking until I was abroad highlights the very hypnotic effect it had on me as well. I wish to and will return soon to the motherland but it gives me great hope and happiness that there are more people like you on my return then there were on my departure.

    Please always keep up with your good fight and never let a “sane” person dictate the level of your “sanity”.
    Yikes got a little preachy…..

    Bye ^_^

    Comment by Tahir Hasnain — June 10, 2012 @ 1:50 am | Reply


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